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Is Making More Money A Blessing…Or A Burden?
April 13th, 2010 by Kendall
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This may SHOCK you (I know it did me) but many women fear making more money. This fear may not “make sense” or seem logical, but it feels real, which means it must be released in order to move forward powerfully in both your life AND your business.
When I ask women what this fear is about, they tell me that they:
- Worry they won’t know what to do with the money once they have it
- Worry that having more will change their relationship with their significant other, or hamper their ability to attract someone new into their life
- Doubt they’ll be able to hang on to it once they have it, and end up creating their debt all over again
Women, much more so than men, often experience inner conflict between our desire to create a more abundant life, enjoy a yummy lifestyle and treat ourselves to life’s luxuries…with how much we allow to flow into our bank account.
It seems silly when you look at it in the light of day. But in our secret thoughts, these fears are real and can prevent us from breaking free of money patterns we otherwise seemed destined to repeating throughout our life.
So, what can you do? Is it possible to be at peace with making more so that you can view it as an amazing blessing, rather than a troublesome burden?
Here are three strategies for releasing any fear, doubt or concern you may be secretly harboring about becoming richer. By implementing each one you can easily open your “inner door” to greater wealth so that you’re willing and able to take advantage of the many opportunities coming to you via your business.
Strategy #1 Don’t Let Your Past Hold You Back
Hear me out on this: We’ve all made mistakes with money, gotten in over our heads or made decisions we later regretted. You need to forgive yourself and let it go. A mistake is only a mistake if you continue to let it haunt you. It’s not a mistake if you use those past experiences to LEARN something from.
Give yourself credit for being a new and better “you” than you were before. The new you of today knows how to make wiser, smarter money decisions, so what are you waiting for?
Strategy #2 Create A Clear Plan For Your New Money…Even Before You Have It
Instead of worrying that if you have more money you’ll only recreate your debt, etc., decided in ADVANCE what actions you’ll take to keep your new influx of cash. I recommend portioning out some of every dollar towards each of these three categories:
- Paying down debt
- Creating a cushion (savings)
- Improving your lifestyle
Money loves to be paid attention to, so by having a clear plan you’ll be giving it the attention it wants…in a positive way.
Strategy #3 Don’t Compromise Standing In Your Power With Money For The Sake Of Others
I believe that what serves and honors you, serves and honors others. Sure, at first, as you begin to stand in your power with money, those closest to you may prefer you stay exactly as you were. But holding yourself back so that someone else doesn’t feel challenged doesn’t do you any good, and ultimately, doesn’t help them either. Remember that relationships grow when the people in them grow. So, instead of compromising, be willing to stand firm in your commitment to growing your wealth.
Making More Money Is A Blessing When You Use It As A Stepping Stone On Your Spiritual Journey
Money is symbolic of how you are growing and believing in yourself. If you’ve worried about what having more money will “do to you” or to your life, now is the time to start trusting that having more money is part of your spiritual path. And above all, to begin trusting yourself.
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Kendall this is a wonderful article.
Thank-you so much and boy did the 1st one ring true here.
Now I know I have to deal with the past.
Heather
Comment by Heather — April 13, 2010 @ 6:12 pm
Great post, Kendall! Why is it that we worry so much about hurting other people’s feelings — that we sabotage our own prosperity! It’s nuts! Take care!
Comment by Laura — April 13, 2010 @ 6:17 pm
Great article Key
I have been sabotaging my own success for these very reasons. No more, I’m going to start trusting myself.
Comment by Heather — April 13, 2010 @ 7:18 pm
wonderful Kendall!
I feel like the more money I make the more I am myself.
I’ve become very clear that a big part of my mission and purpose is to help creative spiritual people thrive by making money and building business’s that support their full expression.
Money really is a partner for great things!
Comment by laura — April 13, 2010 @ 9:13 pm
Thanks Kendall. I will share this with a client who I’m sure will benefit from these clear suggestions especially since it relates to her spiritual journey.
Comment by Fran — April 14, 2010 @ 9:51 am
Wow! So powerful, yet so simply stated! I can relate to everything you said Kendall! Thank you. I will take those 3 strategies to heart!
Comment by Debbie Mahler — April 14, 2010 @ 11:42 am
Thank you so much for sharing this. Your timing, (of course!) is perfect! Thank you so much for this reminder to remember the brilliance and inherent creativity that I am. Many blessings to you, Kendall!
Comment by Nicole Calvano — April 14, 2010 @ 12:32 pm
Well said, Kendall - and I can see the deeper meanings behind your words! While I’ve read on this topic before and felt that I couldn’t relate to why some women may subconsciously fear money, this article certainly adds to my pool of understanding.
As an aside, I think that for me, one thing I’m consciously aware of is my alignment with the notion that once people’s needs are taken care of, more money doesn’t necessarily equate to greater happiness. In other words, once individuals have reached a certain plateau of achieving relative comfort, peace and security, more doesn’t necessarily enhance their spiritual well-being.
(I do realize that you are speaking to women who likely don’t feel that they have achieved this relative comfort, peace and security, however). I just find it fascinating in terms of what creates true fulfillment in life and what doesn’t. (Which is why I love listening to advice from our elders, including our wise centenarians!)
Thank you for this,
Ann-Michele
Comment by Ann-Michele Timmerman — April 15, 2010 @ 2:44 am
Thank you Kendall for this inspirational article. I woke this morning praying to find a way to accept more money in my life and then I remembered receiving the article in my email.
Money is actually neutral. Money has the power we are willing to give it to, so It should be that simple to attract it more in our lives! Thank you for showing us how to do it and to believe in it.
Best wishes,
Violaine
Comment by Violaine — April 15, 2010 @ 8:35 am
Hi Kendall,
What a fabulous article. I loved the part about both paying down debt AND creating savings at the same time. It’s so important to do both.
Noelene.
Comment by Noelene Dwyer-Leishman — April 18, 2010 @ 6:55 am