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Is Growing Your Business Triggering Fear?
November 3rd, 2009 by Kendall
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Eek! In your heart you want to grow your business but every time you think about it, or begin to take action, you’re beset with fear.
Relax, it’s okay. I’m not going to tell you to just “muscle through it.” That’s a very masculine approach that doesn’t work well for women. And, it often only serves to create more fear.
People see how much fun and success I have with my business and think that I’m long past the fear stage.
Uh, no, I’m not.
The difference now is, I’ve learned that fear is a natural stage that we all go through when we’re stepping up and playing bigger.
Along my path of growing my business from frustrating five figures just three short years ago, to now being a home-based, multi-million dollar coaching company, I learned the real meaning of fear and what to do when I feel it.
Let me share with you 3 key tips that will help you achieve your goals so you can fulfill your desire to have a financially and spiritually successful business, even when fear tries to capture you in its grip.
Tip #1 The Real Meaning Of Fear Is This…
Anytime you’re stepping up into a new level of success with your business, you’re bound to trigger fear. Reason is, fear flows from an ancient part of you that wants everything to stay exactly the same. Of course, that’s not possible but trying to reason with fear is like reasoning with a toddler.
What I do when I feel fear is celebrate it! Understand that it’s simply a part of the natural process of growth. Look at it this way: if you’re not feeling fear about taking action with your business then the action probably isn’t big enough for you.
Tip #2 Ask Yourself, “What’s The Worst That Can Happen?”
The power of fear lies in its ability to get you to spookily imagine all sorts of yucky things happening. But if you pinpoint what’s the worst that can happen, then create an idea of how you would handle that situation if it did happen (which is unlikely, anyway) then you’re going to relax and feel more confident about moving forward.
Tip #3 Ask The Fear, “What Is Its Positive Intention?”
This may be a little whoo-whoo for you but truly, the fear has a positive intention for you. All you need to do is ask what it is, then listen and within seconds you’ll have the answer.
Once you have the answer you can choose other ways of honoring that intention that still allow you to move forward in a bold and powerful way. This practice removes all of the conflict or fight that feeling fear can trigger and replaces it with a sense of compassion, honor and respect. This is the Divine Feminine Way.
You Have The Power To Choose The Purpose Fear Can Serve In Your Business
By choosing to see fear as serving a purpose you demystify it, robbing it of its power and thus allowing your REAL power to flow through you unimpeded, as it’s meant to.
So, whatever that next big step forward is for you with your business — whether it’s raising your fees, joining a high end master mind, redesigning your business model or perhaps hiring an assistant — remember this: as long as your desire to achieve what you want is greater than your fear, let any feelings of fear serve to confirm you’re on the right path.
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Tags: 6 figures, 7 figures, entrepreneurs, money mindset, women entrepreneurs
Thanks Kendall for this timely article. Great tips. I personally use Tip# 2 a lot and find ways to transform the fear into faith.
Comment by Lalitha — November 3, 2009 @ 9:25 pm
Thanks for this!!!
Comment by Dawn — November 3, 2009 @ 9:31 pm
I think you’re brilliant!
Comment by Angela Minelli — November 3, 2009 @ 9:35 pm
Perfect timing. I was just sitting here freaking out, about to meditate on my fear when I heard the email chime. Apparently, a big breakthrough is coming, the worst that can happen is things will stay the same, and I will be well prepared to fully appreciate the good when it arrives. Joy!
Comment by Miriam — November 3, 2009 @ 9:44 pm
Sometimes I feel that fear covers discernment and then I do not know how to look at fear, i.e. whether it is a growth opportunity or it is an instinctual response trying to protect me. Hope this makes sense.
Comment by Lilian — November 3, 2009 @ 10:41 pm
Thank you so much for helping me to make fear a friend instead of a big great wolf to run from.
Comment by Dean — November 4, 2009 @ 3:13 am
Tip #1 is such a great reframe for anyone in business! I’ve noticed that I have to keep reminding myself of it. It helps to have friends and colleagues who can lovingly remind me about what fear really is when I start flipping out.
Nina!
Comment by Nina East — November 4, 2009 @ 7:17 am
These three tips are simple/simply great! Thank you again, Kendall. They make sense to me. Really :-)!
Comment by Jane Valencia — November 4, 2009 @ 12:00 pm
Wow - I’m not the only one who feels fear when stepping out into a larger vision of myself. Who knew?!?!? Thanks Kendall, for helping me see fear in a more expansive context! xxoo
Comment by Shannon Presson — November 4, 2009 @ 3:22 pm
Finding myself in the curious position of this being area of expertise in my work with entrepreneurs and being in midst of my own fear as I push to a more sophisticated level with my business.
Your questions mirror those I ask my clients (and myself). Fear is definitely something not to be avoided! It has so much information about what we are saying to ourselves in the background and what limits our actions as we go forth.
It may be hard and messy to engage with because it brings up judgemental thoughts that we “should” be acting more maturely or not feeling the fear. More often that not, our anticipation, our expectations need to be tempered with a reminder that we have talent, previous successes, and we will be all right, no matter what we choose.
Comment by Elli St.George-Godfrey — November 5, 2009 @ 9:11 pm