Is Your Man's Money Beliefs Holding You Back From Success?
© 2006 - 2009 Kendall SummerHawk
If you’re in a committed relationship then you’ve likely had an argument about money. Add in to the mix that you’re an entrepreneurial woman and arguments about money can magnify in both frequency and intensity.
Studies show that the number one topic couples fight about is money. I’m not surprised, since money is often a mirror for where we give up our power, in addition to mirroring our fear of not having enough. No wonder this is such an emotionally charged topic!
To top it off, if you’re growing you’re business then it’s critical that you invest in training courses, attending events, coaching programs and other activities that your spouse may see as frivolous, when in truth, these are the very activities that will help you leap out of struggle and into success.
So, what’s an ambitious gal to do when she loves her man, doesn’t want to compromise her business growth by holding back, yet doesn’t want to get into another argument over money?
Sit tight and buckle your seatbelt…I’m about to share three tips with you that will help you keep the peace AND give you permission to invest in your business so you can watch it grow.
Tip #1 Guys Love Logic So Use This To Your Advantage
When I was first growing my business, every decision I made — from which events to attend to whether I would hire my first assistant — was made on faith. Sure, my intuition said these were the right decisions to make but the truth was, I had no track record to prove they would pay off.
So how do you get your spouse to support you when all you have to say to back up your decision is, “Honey, I KNOW this is the right thing to do!”? Try this: since most guys love to know the facts, focus less on how strong your intuition is and more on how you’re going to implement what you’re about to learn from that event, coaching program, etc.
This is your opportunity to be specific. For example: if adding on just two next clients will more than pay for the opportunity you want to sign up for, write it down for your guy like this:
Course registration of $997 = Two new clients of just $397 each
per month for less than two months.
Now, doesn’t that seem totally do-able?
Tip #2 Stand In Your Power With Your Beliefs Rather Than Try To Change His
If your beloved is skeptical, fearful or focuses on what can go wrong regarding money, just let him be. What you need to do is focus on YOU. It’s not your job to “fix” him but what you CAN do is stand in your power with what you believe. Then, back up those positive beliefs with action. That means surrounding yourself with like-minded people, acknowledging your successes and focusing on implementing. Your man may never share your extreme positivity but he will admit that what you’re doing is working when he sees the results.
Tip #3 Ask For What You Want So Your Guy Can Provide
When it comes to money, men are mostly motivated to provide. Compare that to women, who crave security. Knowing this, I’ve found that simply by asking — directly and with authority — for your guy to support your financial decisions and to trust you, can work like a charm. He may still be doubtful but when you put your request to him directly, he’s likely to agree to it.
Building A Business Is A Lot Like Building A Relationship….
Both take commitment, compassion and most of all, courage. The greater your clarity, your sense of purpose and your implementation plan, the sooner your sweetie will relax, accept and even support your decisions. In the meantime, stand strong for what you believe in and keep the faith.
About the author:
Kendall SummerHawk, Million Dollar Marketing Coach, delivers smart, savvy ways entrepreneurs can turn their hectic business into a smooth-running, fun, 6-figure money-making dream. To learn more about her book, Brilliance Unbridled, and sign up for more FREE tips like these, visit her site at http://www.kendallsummerhawk.com
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